{"id":1112,"date":"2015-11-19T18:01:37","date_gmt":"2015-11-19T18:01:37","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/www.affairhandbook.com\/?p=1112"},"modified":"2020-02-04T00:26:25","modified_gmt":"2020-02-04T00:26:25","slug":"how-facebook-is-ruining-your-marriage","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.affairhandbook.com\/index.php\/how-facebook-is-ruining-your-marriage\/","title":{"rendered":"How Facebook is Ruining Your Marriage"},"content":{"rendered":"

\"How-Facebook-is-Ruining-Your-Marriage\"<\/a>The act of marriage is a beautiful thing. In the beginning it is all wine and roses. Nothing could ever go wrong. However, if you have ever been married or been in any long term committed monogamous relationship you know that it is hard work<\/a>. I isn\u2019t physical labor kind of work, unless you count housework and washing the car. It is work in the sense that you must constantly be working on the connection that brought you together in the first place. Couples are on an endless quest to remain in a place where they can be sincerely intimate and loving to each other. Since that isn\u2019t always possible, couples have to find ways to work around those tough times and not do so much damage that it can\u2019t be repaired. This is a tentative time. When two people are angry for whatever reason or no good reason, that is there weakest time. Facebook is much a like the Garden of Eden<\/a> to committed couples. A virtual plethora of golden fruits both from the past and present, ripe for the picking. Can Facebook<\/a> ruin a strong, committed marriage? Probably not. Can Facebook ruin a troubled marriage? You bet.
\nThere are several ways Facebook can get in there right where it hurts and turn the knife.
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Overuse<\/h3>\n

Don\u2019t be one of those douchebags that stays on Facebook every moment of the day. (How Much Time people spend on facebook every day<\/a>) You know the type. He has his notifications turned on for every request and comment under the sun. He browses every page of everyone he knew and pokes and likes his way through dinner. No matter how long you have been married, your wife deserves some of your attention some of the time. Smartphones make it so easy to just click into Facebook and check your newsfeed that it becomes a habit and some people develop a real problem with it much like a codependency.
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Being Friends With Your Ex<\/h3>\n

Don\u2019t be friends with your ex-wife on Facebook<\/a>. That is a recipe for disaster any way you look at it. It isn\u2019t even a good idea to be friends with an ex-girlfriend if you were really and truly and deeply in love. The only exception would be if you have one of those rare unicorn relationships where you have kids and divorce and are wonderful friends and even like her new husband. If you don\u2019t share children, even under the best of circumstances, explaining why your friends with your ex is a sticky situation. We\u2019re just friends sounds fake even when it\u2019s true. <\/p>\n

Your Facebook Friends are Not Marriage Counselors.<\/h3>\n

Posting your marriage problems, no matter how thinly veiled, can come to no good. It is embarrassing for your wife and should be for you too. No one needs to know your personal problems. It can cause all sorts of problems including nosey ex\u2019s coming forward with their own agenda\u2019s. This goes for the chat function too. The Internet has allowed people to make friends all over the world. Some of these friendships seem insanely real and people feel safe sharing every personal detail of their life with these folks.
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