{"id":608,"date":"2013-08-15T18:04:15","date_gmt":"2013-08-15T18:04:15","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/www.affairhandbook.com\/?p=608"},"modified":"2020-02-04T00:02:20","modified_gmt":"2020-02-04T00:02:20","slug":"what-you-dont-know-about-having-an-affair","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.affairhandbook.com\/index.php\/what-you-dont-know-about-having-an-affair\/","title":{"rendered":"What You Don\u2019t Know About Having an Affair"},"content":{"rendered":"

\"What-You-dont-know-about-having-an-affair\"<\/a>If you\u2019ve been entertaining the possibility of having an affair<\/strong>, you\u2019re probably imagining it to be something much different than what it actually will turn out to be. Sure, an affair can be fun and exciting, but the ramifications can be devastating<\/a>. If you\u2019re simply imagining the thrill of sneaking around for hot sex and time with someone new and unfamiliar who gazes at you with stars in their eyes, you aren\u2019t taking in the big picture. If you were to compile the experiences of all of the people you know who have ever cheated on a spouse, the results would be quite sobering. People who are committing infidelity often get way more than they bargained for, and most of it isn\u2019t pretty.
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Not All Affairs Are Planned<\/h3>\n

If you\u2019ve never cheated, you may think that it is typically a planned out, premeditated event. This isn\u2019t usually the case. Most affairs start as deep friendships or innocent flirtations that slowly but surely cross the line into entirely inappropriate. Warning signs that you are playing with something that you shouldn\u2019t include having friends you are sexually attracted to, especially if the feeling seems to be mutual. Flirtation that keeps going just a little bit further will eventually go all the way to having an affair<\/span>. If you are spending a lot of time alone with someone other than your spouse and they know more about your emotional life and your issues with your spouse than your spouse does, you are already engaging in an emotional affair. Emotional affairs<\/a> have a tendency to develop into physical affairs, and even if they don\u2019t, they can cause just as much pain and damage as screwing around.
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You Had An Affair\u2026Now What?<\/h3>\n

Once you\u2019ve indulged in the affair, your feelings of guilt will probably be overwhelming. You may experience deep sadness and remorse when your spouse does something particularly sweet or loving and you will feel like a piece of crap for deceiving them by finding an affair. When you are with your secret lover, the thrill may be tainted by thoughts of your partner sitting at home with the kids and naively buying your story about going out with your best friend for the evening. The ache of a guilty conscious can be unbearably painful. Even worse than that is that you\u2019ll know that you deserve to feel terrible about what you are doing.
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